How to talk to a lesbian to get her attention

Finding out who is a member of the LGBTQIA+ and out of those people who are interested in dating you is pretty complicated out there in the real world.

You can’t just go up to strangers on the street and ask them: “Hey, are you a lesbian?”.

Not only is it insanely weird, but it’s also quite dangerous as you don’t know how people will react.

Some will take it lightly and just tell you that they are hetero or not interested, while others can be violent and very upset because you can’t tell by someone’s appearance either what their sexual orientation is or whether or not they are homophobic.

But how do you talk to a lesbian?

What do you say to get her attention and make her interested in dating you?

Let’s find out.

How to talk to girls using a chat room

The best way to get into contact with other lesbians, either for hookups, casual relationships, or serious commitments, is to go on an online dating website.

Depending on what you desire, you can pick different websites that fit your needs.

Once you’ve chosen the online dating service, it’s time to make an account.

After making an account and completing your profile, you will be able to use filters and see what matches you get.

These matches will be according to your preferences (from physical to emotional, intellectual, and social aspects), so your chances of finding someone you can date successfully increase dramatically.

After going through these steps, it’s time to enter the lesbian chat room and begin talking to women.

You can chat with several women to become less shy and more confident, to gain experience and understand what and how to say to them.

You will see what other women have to say, how they flirt and learn.

The key points are that you must be confident, be yourself, be kind, listen, ask questions, be genuinely interested in speaking to them, be present and attentive, and also witty, charming, flirtatious, and funny.

So, making a conclusion of said: the perfect solution exists, and it’s the simplest and fastest option possible – online dating.

When you try dating online, you will quickly notice that since you are using a niche dating website you are perfectly safe; any woman you speak to will be a lesbian (or maybe bi), and they are all on the website because they are interested in dating.

Use appropriate pick-up lines to get a date

Since you are not here to make friends but to find a hookup or girlfriend, you will have to flirt and clearly state your intentions.

More so when it comes to relationships between women than in a relationship between a man and a woman, the lines are blurred.

This means that if you are not clear when trying to pick up women, you can easily fall into the friendzone.

It’s easier and better to prevent this situation than to try to escape it afterward.

This means you will have to step up your flirting game.

You must learn and use pick-up lines, but not cheesy, overused ones.

You must adapt your lines and not use the same ones over and over again, no matter who you are speaking with.

The best course of action would be to show interest (but not too much and appear desperate) and be fun, charming, and interesting.

Try different topics of conversation like the Lesbian Bar project, for example, and tell the woman you are interested in how your ideal first date when you like someone is to take them to a lesbian bar out for drinks.

Then you can immediately follow up and ask her if she would like to go.

Show your sense of humor

Humour is super important.

Everyone likes a good laugh, and it makes people bond more easily.

It’s been proven time and time again that couples that laugh together love one another more, communicate better and have better chances of making it in the long run.

It might be tough to navigate this situation if you don’t have similar humor, so you must find someone who “gets you”.

If your sense of humor is quite dark or weird, you should take it slow and test the waters before jumping in.

But don’t hide your true self.


Online dating is straightforward.

Don’t overthink anything.

Be yourself and let your personality shine through.

Be attentive and listen carefully, and you will find a girlfriend soon enough.

Remember that communication is key.